The moment when kids start to notice your child is different.
Today, we were at a McDonald’s. My 4 year old was playing on the play place. Out of no where, I start hearing kids say,” He took his pants off, he has a diaper on.” Laughing about it. Yes my child is not potty trained yet.
I stood straight up and went up there, put his clothes on him and as I’m doing this. a child is pointing and laughing at him about the incident (Telling their sibling I assumed).
Of course, their parents are not seeing this incident, because of not being on the play equipment. I said as calmly as possible. “Please stop talking about it, because it isn’t nice.”
Now, I wish I could have handled this differently. Used it as a education moment. But I was filled with hurt for my child.
For parents that read this article, I say to you, educate your children that are and are not special needs.
A child with special needs, should know they are different and special in their own way . That some people may not accept that, and other children should know they are just as special in their own ways. That there are different people out there, that we should treat with kindness.
As a parent of a child with special needs. I was expecting the stares, the avoidances and the reassuring.
Today, I was told “I would not be carrying him”. “He can walk.” “Oh my back.” They exclaimed.
Sure, the person meant well, but is it something that should be said? Sure, I explained my son has special needs (I kind of have to). But I could tell the person was still kind of eh.
I carry my son at the age of 4 to keep him safe. Sure, it hurts my back eventually. But my number one priority is to keep him safe. If I put him down he will run away faster then I can catch him.
If I try to make him hold my hand he will force himself away or drop to his legs to get away.
My son is a runner. So I carry him to keep him safe. Sure, at times he rides in a cart or stroller. But in this situation it was easier to just carry him.
One of the hardest things for me being a autism mom, is when my child is sick.
My child has a immune deficiency that is unknown yet. So he is sick quite often.
He is nonverbal so I am constantly questioning myself. Is he ok ? Why is he covering his ears more? Yes, he covers them some already, but it’s a lot more today. Why is he doing that? Do his ears hurt? Does his belly hurt? AM I CRAZY and over thinking ? The list goes on.
Lucky for us, we have a amazing pediatrician that understands my concerns and is great with him.
Typically, it is a fight with him going to the doctors. But she is awesome with him.
My advice for everyone with loved ones reading this, is to trust your instincts. If you feel something is wrong, go with it. Because I bet your instincts are usually right.